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Wednesday, August 12, 2009

Life, guilt, and an August Country Calendar

Life. It sure gets complicated sometimes. I have not been able to keep up with this blog, and I don't forsee doing much more in the future, but I will try from time to time.

FIL, who, as I have mentioned previously, has dementia, fell and broke his ankle in 2 places about month ago. His mind is going so fast, he doesn't even remember that his ankle is broken, nor does he feel any pain with it. He was to go to a nursing home for rehab, but his dementia was so bad, they had to put him in the dementia ward (locked unit). It is a sad place with alot of sad people. He looks so pitiful, but we just can't bring him home because MIL can't care for him while we work, and in her advanced age, she is paranoid about all strangers, plus she is worried that someone is going to steal all her money. She thinks that Dave should just quit his job and stay here all the time to care for Rex, but we do have financial obligations too and can't afford to do that. I feel guilty about leaving him at the home, but when we aren't there, he seems oblivious to his surroundings. It is a hard thing to watch people get old and just exist rather than live. Sad.

I did finish ny August Country Calendar. They are all so cute. I also made a mini quilt for a swap but I don't have to mail it until the end of the month, so I put it on my little bed. I will need to make one for myself, as well as some sheets and a pillow case. Sweet stuff. Pics below.

We have been bringing stuff in from the garden like crazy. We froze 40 bags of green beans, 21 bags of corn, 5 bags of spaghetti sauce, and today I will be freezing tomatoes. I canned 12 jars of salsa, and MIL canned about 8 jars of tomatoes. We will be eating "fresh" veggies all winter. Here's a pic of the salsa. It's always so pretty.

I guess this kinda catches you up on my life. I have a couple of things to look forward to in September, a beach trip to meet some of the Quilting Bee girls (I hope nothing happens to those plans!!), and a retreat in Ohio with my ABC Quilter's friends. I really need this vacation.




Crispy said...

Love the calendar pieces Wilma.

I'm so sorry you have to go through this with your FIL. Life just doesn't seem fair sometimes and we just have to do what we have to do. Don't worry about blogging, we'll be here when you get back to it.



Sarah said...

I am so sorry to hear about your FIL...that is so hard for everyone.

Your mini quilt is just too cute. I have to get started on one I promised my daughter for her doll's bed.

True Blue Nana said...

I found you through another blog. I am in eastern NC and yes you do live in a beautiful part of the state. Life does get complicated and it never seems to let up does it? I am dealing with some of the same issues as you with my mother. She is home with full time care but unhappy because she cannot do what she used to do. Quilting keeps me from going over the edge. Quilting and keeping my two grandsons.

GARI said...

My mother felt badly when she had to put her father in a home but has finally come to terms with the fact that he was safer there and didn't usually know that he was unhappy. Since this decision was made with a lot of thought and love I hope/know you will get over the guilt and know you did what needed to be done.

Kim D. said...

Hi Wilma,

Your calendar is adorable and so is the little quilt.
Sorry about your FIL. We went through this with my mother. It's sad to see your parents/inlaws suffer. It looks like you have been busy with all the canning, yummy.. Take care..